I get questions. I give answers. I used to keep it just between me and the asker, but I get a lot of similar questions, which of course have similar answers. Plus it seems that there are plenty of people with a similar question who haven’t been brave enough to ask.
So, now you get to see the answers too. Just in case. We all get to learn something.
And, rest assured that if you ask me a question that I answer here, I won’t use your name or any information that might identify you (unless you want me to).
I couldn’t figure out how to publish this question without loads of identifying information. So, I decided to simply publish my response. I think you’ll have a pretty good idea what kind of question was asked.
It sounds like once you start thinking about what next, you quickly spiral down into all the trouble you’re likely to encounter.
It gets you worried and anxious. Worried that you can’t do what you want to do, concerned you’ll fail, anxious about getting it wrong, not to mention that you don’t even know if it’s possible for you.
All those feelings, and I suspect whatever else you’re experiencing are totally reasonable.
You’re not alone
Your body and your unconscious mind have gotten you this far by doing what you’ve always done. Doing things differently sets off all kinds of warning signals. When your body is in that mode, the wrong part of your brain is in charge and suddenly everything is too scary to try.
No need to make big leaps today
Let the brain chill and let’s just start with the feeling you want. How great are you going to feel when this is no longer a problem for you?
Once you’re feeling okay again, and your nervous system is calm, you can take a ridiculously, absurdly small step, in fact, not even a step but like an almost step in that direction. Maybe even just point yourself in that direction.
And then notice what happens.
Go uber slow. There’s no need to catch the Fix-it-all-now flu.
That’s enough for today.
Tomorrow? Rinse and repeat.
The fear will ease. The clarity will come. Spend a bit of time with these feelings, discovering what it is you really want each day.
Want to turbo-boost the process?
Start a daily writing practice.
Do the exercises in a book. There are loads to choose from, I particularly like Michael Neill’s You Can Have What You Want: Proven Strategies for Inner and Outer Success and Barbara Sher’s Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want.
Work with a coach.
Keep me posted on how it’s going.
Keep the questions coming!
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