Meet Them Where They’re At

Do you want to help someone change?

Understand them?

Really connect?

Let them be where they are, right now. Let them be as together, as messed up, as open or closed as they are, right now.

Do they need to be heard? Listen.

Did they ask for advice? Share your best.

Are they unsure? Simply hold them (or the space).

Be present.

Wishing things were difference doesn’t change them. Even if you’re a really good wisher. Knowing they can be different doesn’t change them either.

What creates space for change is being accepted just as you are in this moment.

* Bonus practice: Meet yourself where you’re at.

Photo: St. Johns Bridge framed by brilliant fall foliage.